If You’re Secretly Hoping to Get Discovered…

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I wonder if you can relate to this? 

You’re not in a relationship because you find them to be messy. Perhaps you’ve witnessed a family member’s chaotic relationship and it’s got you like, “that’s too much for me right now. I enjoy my peace too much.” 

You’re not putting yourself out there, yet at your core you want to be in a relationship, and you’re secretly hoping to get discovered. 

While you know this is completely illogical, you can’t seem to get over it. 

Can you relate? 

This kind of script blocks your charisma and your allure.

Here’s why. Can I get science-y on you for a minute? 

The challenge you’re experiencing is an accumulation of patterns (fears) stored in the brain (aka same ol’ script).

There’s a part of the brain, the basal ganglia, that detects what you’re doing, how you’re doing it, and how you’re thinking about it. It encodes a map that allows you to repeat the pattern later on without having thought about it. 

The result? 

This part of the brain takes your “same ol’ script” and creates an itinerary that it believes will work best for you. So you end up in a place you didn’t think you would be. (i.e. “I just thought it would’ve happened by now…”) 

The Feminine Allure™ Intensive can help end this pattern. 

It’s the perfect solution for you because it creates a pattern interrupt.

Consider Winisha. Before she hired me, she knew her biggest block to her success would be getting in her own head and in her own way. Because of past hurts, she was closed off to love and even intimidated by it. She had a hard time receiving without deflecting or having to explain a compliment away.

Naturally, this will impact a woman’s confidence.

These problems can absolutely be solved with one simple thing… 

Feminine Allure™!

How does Feminine Allure™ solve confidence problems? 

Let’s talk about it. You see…

  • When you tell yourself you’re “not ready” because of where you are in life right now, you hide or even push men away.
  • When you’re guarded because you’ve been blindsided in the past, it’s not men you don’t trust. It’s because you don’t trust yourself. You don’t trust that you can recover quickly or even pick the next man appropriately.
  • When you meet a nice man, you try to force security by asking lots of questions, or you play the “nice girl” who has no needs at all because you fear rejection.
  • And finally, when men compliment you or try to flirt with you, you freeze or deflect. 


With Feminine Allure™ on your side, you can show up in a new way in every situation, just like Winisha.

The skills you’ll learn in The Feminine Allure™ Intensive allow you to show up with more power and allure so you can experience more meaningful connections, more consistently.

How would that make a difference in your life right now? 

The intensive experience is available for a limited time. Click here to learn more.

Charisma Can Be Learned

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In my last post, I mentioned that if you’re not getting noticed then it’s very likely there’s an absence of charisma, so you can’t show up in an alluring, attractive, and powerful way.

Where there’s charisma, there’s allure. And, when there’s allure you get to experience more meaningful connections, more consistently.

Your charisma creates magnetism and allows you to meet high quality men and draw them in, without becoming someone you’re not.

Imagine this, there’s someone who has your interest. You have mutual friends and you see him around, but you can’t tell where you stand with him. You want to throw something out there there to test his interest, but you have NO IDEA what to do. So nothing happens.  You don’t even know if he really notices you.

Now imagine this, there’s someone who has your interest. You have mutual friends, and so you see him around. When you show up at your friend’s house for her “Summer’s Here BBQ”, people immediately take notice of you, before a word is spoken.

Nothing much has changed about you physically… no new hair or clothes.  Actually, you look down and to figure out what they’re looking at, and you notice your nail polish is chipped, but you don’t care (and that’s not what they’re looking at). Just you, with some Feminine Allure™ on your side.

It’s your presence they notice.

You see, for the alluring woman, this is a way of life.

According to Olivia Cabane’s The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism, there are three key elements of charisma:

  • High presence
  • High power
  • High warmth

I’ve taken the three elements and developed a very concrete plan with specific actions you can take to establish charisma, to enhance your Feminine Allure™ , and to get noticed now!

After following the plan, you’ll have more romantic options, more meaningful connections, and less worry.

Click here to view the plan I have for you.

To your enhancement,


True or False? Since I don’t go to bars and clubs, I don’t meet men.

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If you answered “false” good on you. 

If you answered “true” and you’re over 30, and your script is that you don’t meet men because you don’t go to clubs and bars, please stop. 

Right now.

And, I say that lovingly.

Men abound! You don’t have to go to bars, nightclubs, or even create online dating profiles if you don’t want to.

You’ll meet your match at your 10, 20, or 30 year high school reunion.

You’ll meet him at the (insert National Association Conference here).

You’ll meet him while you’re shopping with your mom, at the outdoor outlet mall. 

You’ll meet him while you’re waiting for the folks at the Genius Bar of the Apple Store to call your name.

You’ll meet him at the trivia night your co-worker invited you to.

You’ll meet him midday, on a Tuesday, when you used your lunch break to run to the bank.

You’ll meet him the morning, when you’re running late for work because you had to get an emissions check on your car.

 I could go on and on, but I think you get my point.

You will have numerous passes and several options. Don’t believe the hype that there’s “just one” for you. You can have several matches. The question isn’t, “is he the one?” The question is “whom will you choose?”

If you find that you’re not getting noticed, then there’s an absence of charisma, and so can’t show up in an alluring and powerful way.

When you show up in an alluring and powerful way, you get to experience more meaningful connection, more consistently.

You won’t have to struggle to put yourself out there. 

Instead, you can just “be” while using both your body and your energy to communicate charisma so that you make a lasting, positive impression.

I know what you’re thinking, “Well, how the heck can I communicate charisma Monique?”

Stay tuned.

To your enhancement,


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