Secretly Wonder Whether You’ll Meet and Marry the Right Man?

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My husband and I just returned from Paris for our babymoom.

Did you know I was pregnant? I announced it here on this live training I did last month, where I taught the exact six steps I used to attract my husband and live out our purposeful relationship.

Since we’re expecting a baby in April, my husband and I wanted to take an international trip together because we haven’t traveled together abroad since we’ve been married or since we’ve been together actually.

Anyway, let me talk about belief systems. Do you secretly wonder whether or not you’ll meet and marry the right man for you?

That’s what I want to talk about because last week, we walked along the Champs Elysees and we went into a few luxury stores, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, all these other different places.

This reminds me of when I was in Fort Lauderdale Beach just last month. I was walking with a colleague of mine. We saw all the beautiful homes and it was just lovely and I was like, “Oh I feel the abundance. I just love it. It feels so good. It really ups my vibration. It gives me a high vibe.”

One of the things she said was, “Oh that’s interesting an interesting perspective because when I see that, I just think they have it and I don’t.”

I thought, “Hmm, that’s real. That’s definitely real.” So last week while we were in Louis Vuitton I was like, “Man these people got money to spend. What they do? What’s going on?” I felt really tight and I felt like how she felt. …Not that I didn’t belong but I did feel out of place. I can’t even lie. I felt out of place and I felt like they have it and I don’t.

Typically my mind doesn’t go that way. Typically when I see people who are about their business who are just so way up there, I’m like, “What are you doing? What do you know that I don’t know so that I can be around you and learn and be around the spirit of abundance?”

So anyway, as I was leaving, in my mind I was telling my husband, “I’ve got to get my mind right because there’s so much that’s going in my head.”

I’m of the belief that our thoughts really do create our physical reality. Because the Scripture says that this flesh profits nothing. It’s the spirit that quickens. It’s the spirit that gives life. So anything that we can ask and believe, and everything through prayer and supplication to make our requests known to God… we will have what it is that we want, as long as we’re not really praying in vain or asking amiss.

So before we can do that, we really have to get into the spirit. Get into the high vibration.

So I was just totally off and thought to myself, “You know what? I’m in Paris. I need to get my mind right. I need to really get into abundance.”

Here’s why I’m sharing this with you.

It’s because you might see a woman who has everything together. She has her man, she has her baby, she has her life and it’s all good and when she’s sharing it you’re like, “Oh. You trying to show off this, this and that.” That’s not true. Where is your mind taking you? When you’re around people who are doing things that you really admire, are you separating the good from the bad and really adhering to the good? Or, are you stuck on the bad?

That’s what I want you to know… that you can have exactly what it is that you want. Sometimes it takes a safe container and some accountability and sometimes it really takes a coach to expose you to something new because we only know what’s familiar to us. Oftentimes, we can really get stuck in a rut.

So that’s what I wanted to share. I had to get my mind right and so do you!

If you want to be able to own your influence, if you want to operate in Feminine Allure™, that’s what it’s going to take for you to do

  • Shift your perspective
  • Get into the spirit of abundance,
  • Get out of your comfort zone so that you can really
  • Operate within the spirit of belief …

…because what you want girlfriend is there. The fact that other people have it is evidence that it’s there for you too! Collect that as evidence of what’s possible for you. Not as “oh they got it and I don’t.”

I’m just speaking from my experience and I just want to share because visiting Paris was a dream come true. And on a side note, I feel like in my past life I might’ve been a french woman or lived in France or something. I don’t know. It felt really good to be there, especially with my husband.

To your enhancement,


Become Queen of a Man’s Heart

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I pushed my man into the arms of another woman.

Not my husband, this is someone from my past.

I want to share this story with you because this is something that I was speaking to my Feminine Allure Academy clients about last week. We were talking about powerful and feminine communication secrets, and really, how to just state your desires purely, versus coming from manipulation and control as a way to get what you want and making an obligations and demands.

What happened was that we were in the car, and he left, and left his phone in the car. I went through it. I really had no reason to go through it. There was a hole in my heart, right? I was a woman full of skepticism and fear… fear of abandonment, fear of infidelity.

I went through his phone just to sort of preempt, to make sure that everything was in order and that there was nothing… that I wouldn’t find anything. I went looking anyway. I saw a picture of him pretty close to a woman with his arms really close.

I was thinking, “Well, he doesn’t hold me that way. What’s going on?”

I asked him about it. I asked him about the photo, and I also saw some texts. I don’t remember exactly what it was, but it was something about at looking forward to seeing her again, or holding her close, or something like that.

When I asked him why, you know, who is this woman, and why, one of the things that he shared with me, what he said, and I felt like this was really heartfelt, was that he said that he was practicing. He was practicing with her, because it seemed as though he couldn’t make me happy.

It was almost like an episode of Martin, where Martin didn’t wear his wedding ring while he was at the gym because he wanted to see if he still “had it”, and he lost his ring.

In that moment, I really felt small and contracted, because he was speaking truth. I know that I did not have the skills to speak to a man in way that really empowered him, and really put him in choice to give me what it was that I wanted.

Instead, I criticized in hopes that it would change behavior.

I’m being vulnerable here and really sharing this story with you. I’m hoping that maybe this is something that you can identify with too.

I didn’t know how to edify. All I knew was that if I wanted to make a change and if I wanted him to change, not necessarily be a better person, but really to be a better person for me, is that I would point out what I didn’t like, and what he was doing wrong.

Naturally, that would chip away at his spirit and that would create a spirit of inadequacy and defeat.

To make a long story short, that relationship ended a couple years after that.

Now, I’m proud. In between that moment, I had to study because this wasn’t given to me or modeled for me.

This is why Feminine Allure™ is so important to me because I struggled with it.

I had to study this and groom myself to be the woman who is of influence and Feminine Allure™.

The language of Feminine Allure™ is just about showing up differently in the world, so that people respond to you differently.

You see, I was so skeptical and controlling that I would say things that weren’t nice in hopes that it would change behavior. That doesn’t work because as you can imagine, people don’t typically respond to that.

And so, I remember having a conversation with my now husband. He wasn’t my husband at the time, but remembering what that ex told me about, you know, really not being able to please me, or make me happy. He wanted to try it out with another woman.

I remember speaking to my husband and he was telling he was going to hang out with some friends. And, he was on new trajectory in his life. Rather than going into the “Ergh, Ergh, Ergh, Ergh”, and the, “you don’t need to be doing that, da, da, da, da, da,” I just said, “Be careful with that.”

I left it at that. I didn’t go into convincing. I didn’t go into control.

In that moment, he just looked at me and he said, “I like the way you said that.”

In that moment, I was awakening his masculine need. I was awakening the power within him to make his own decisions and to really trust his own capacity to be the man that he had expressed himself… that he was vulnerable enough to express to me. I wanted to hold that that information and not use it against him, and not abuse our relationship.

I’m saying this to say that you can become queen of a man’s heart.

I had gone from not knowing what to say to a man because I was this broken woman and I didn’t have the skills, to becoming a woman who is extremely empowered, and who knows how to empower her man through language and through words. This is how you become queen of his heart. It’s actually one of the ways that you can become queen of his heart.

By activating that masculine need, activating the God in him, seeing his good, and defining a man’s good, when you do that he associates you with good things. He associates you with his growth, with his prosperity, with his upward mobility. Okay?

Of course you have to discern that this is a good man, this is the person that you want to give to. You don’t want to give and not have anything in return.

I just wanted to share that quick story with you. If you want to learn how to become queen of a man’s heart, that’s something I can help you with.

I’m accepting new private clients who have a desire to change and want to work with me for the next year. I’ve opened my calendar to speak with you.

If you have been following me for some time and you’re tired of the same ole, we can have a conversation to see what’s keeping you stuck and how to get you forward.

I have a 6-step approach. It’s the exact method that I used to own my femininity, to restore that part of me, to attract the right man, and to create a purposeful, amazing, magnificent, passionate, and peaceful relationship, marriage that I have today. 

If you want to know how and have a framework that’s safe and accountable to get you there book your no-obligation Breakthrough Call and let’s see how we can get you to where you want to be.


To your enhancement,



Attract Men by Existing as Love More Consistently

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Today I want to talk about how you can begin to exist as love more consistently. It changes the nature of who you are as a woman and it changes the nature of your relationships and it changes the nature of how people respond to you.

You’re going to be showing up differently, right? You’re going to be showing up with more of your influence, with more of your Feminine Allure™.

Here’s what it looks like. In order for you to begin to live as love more consistently you have to give to others what you yourself want or what you yourself do not have.

Whatever you want to experience in life, you have to give that up. You have to give it to others through the spirit of generosity, through the spirit of gratitude.

This is what it looks like.

If you don’t trust others, oftentimes it’s because you don’t trust yourself. If you want more friends, the scripture says that you got to be friendly. If you want more money, you have to give it away. If you want more love in your life, more wholeness, more friendships, more compassion for other people, you want to be seen, you have to see other people. You want to be able to give that away.

Whatever you want to experience in your own life, you have to give that away.

That is something that I heard from David Neal Walsh as I was watching a movie this weekend, called The Moses Code.

You might be saying, “Monique, how can I give what I don’t have?”

Well, the fact that you can give it away, the fact that you can be compassionate to someone, the fact that you can trust or give trust as a gift is evidence that you have it within yourself to give, okay?

This is really important because Scripture says to do unto others as you would have them to do unto you because your reward will be great, and especially as the child of God, as the child of the most High God. 

Here’s the important thing. Scientists have studied and shown that the brain doesn’t know if we’re mean to someone, if we’re calling someone else a name, if we’re very mistrusting and skeptical of someone, the brain doesn’t know that we’re offering that to someone else.

What happens is that it accepts that as self-direction, a self-directed insult, as a self-directed skeptic, as a self-directed whatever it is.

The brain receives what you give off to others as a gift to itself.

That’s the message. The brain receives what you give to others as a gift to itself. If you want to begin to live as love more consistently, and that is really important for you to, number one, own your femininity so that you can attract the right man and create that purposeful relationship, especially living in purpose.

This is what I said in the last video, the question that you want to ask yourself as a woman, especially as you begin to feel really uneasy in those moments where you just want to go off, you’re like, “Whatever. I’m tired of this. I want to give up.”

Ask yourself, “How can I begin to show love more consistently?” Ask yourself is, “How is God using me in this moment to love an imperfect person?”

I’ve been talking about this a lot, because this is something that I’m also implementing and applying within my own life. I just want to share it with you, because you know that when you have something great, you want to share it, okay?

I hope that this serve you. If it has, go ahead and leave a comment below. What’s your #1 takeaway?

Just remember that whatever you’re giving to other people, you’re giving that back to yourself, because the brain, it doesn’t even know the difference, okay?

This is why existing as love, showing yourself as love, understanding and asking, “Okay, how can I be used in this moment to be love, to exist as more love and more tenderness?”

The gift for you is that not only will your reward be great in Heaven, but it changes the nature of who you are as a woman so that you can show with more love, more light, more fun, more playing, more radiance, more attraction.

This is really an attraction trigger for you.

To your enhancement,