Discover the 3 Habits of Attractive Women

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You don’t have to be the prettiest woman to have successful interactions with men and to feel like you can win with the man of your choice.

You do, however, have to own your influence and your Feminine Allure™. You must embody it.

From my experience and the success of my clients, I’ve discovered there are certain practices that you can do daily to become more beautiful and attractive, without changing your looks.

These practices help you bring your most beautiful self to your everyday and ultimately to an amazing and purposeful relationship with your masculine man.

I’m sharing just three of them in this week’s video. 

But, before I share, just know that these habits have NOTHING to do with personal grooming. Though it’s important, it’s also common advice that won’t set you apart as the magnetic, alluring, and powerful woman men crave.

….You know… that woman with a little something, something… a little je ne sais quoi.

To your enhancement,


You’ve been told you’re intimidating and guarded, now what?

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One of my male colleagues once shared with me that “the only thing a man is afraid of or intimidated by is not being able to solve your problem.”  

That statement alone will minister to you, if you let it.  

Remember that men want to do for you, because it brings purpose to their lives. You are the yin to his yang. Yin and Yang is the Chinese philosophy that all things exist as inseparable and contradictory opposites. 

Yin and yang are seemingly opposite in nature, but they are part of nature. They rely on each other, and they can’t exist without each other.  

What does this have to do with you?  

Well, it’s this…

Men take their cues from what you say and what you do. This is because his yang, which provides form to all things is purposeless without your yin, which provides the spirit to all things. 

Think about it like this. 

A vase is just an object. Sure, it can sit alone on your mantle or desk, but without the beautiful flowers, which brings both purpose and spirit to the vase, it’s just meh! Both work harmoniously to bring out the best version of itself.  

Look, remember when I told you that men are waiting on you to get your act together. That’s because men want their spiritual standard to be raised, and that’s done primarily with your influence. 

So, if you’ve been told you’re intimidating and guarded it’s because you haven’t created the space for him to solve your problem, or at least to feel like he can please you 

You haven’t allowed him to witness your feminine nature, yet. As a result, he feels like he can’t make a difference for you, and he won’t be able to connect with you. 

Connection = commitment. 

Here’s the good news. 

You can create the opportunity for men to notice your Feminine Allure™.  You can capture the moments of defensiveness and turn them into moments of desire. 

This is one of the skills you will learn in the Feminine Allure Academy.

The Feminine Allure Academy begun last night. We’re 50% full and it’s not too late for you if you are SERIOUS and READY to make love a priority this year. 

Would you like to learn how to turn break down the wall of reserve, both his and yours, and capture moments that spark desire?  

If your answer is “ABSOLUTELY”, and you want to learn more about this skill and other skills you can learn that I teach in Feminine Allure Academy, then book your Chemistry Call.  

Go here to review information about the program and you can book your call so that you don’t spend another day in emotional turmoil, wondering. 


To your enhancement, 


Should your man be your best friend? Probably Not!

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When I speak to a lot of potential clients, I hear that you want a man who’s going to be your best friend. “Monique, I just want someone who’s my best friend.” And so today, I want to ask you, should your man be your best friend? And my thought is, probably not. Here’s why.

Now, let me just lay sort of a foundational framework. You do want someone that you actually like. Not that you love, but someone that you actually like, and someone who is a good friend for you, someone that you trust, someone that you feel there’s loyalty, and someone that you can see yourself building a life with, someone with whom you can be completely satisfied with that person as he is today.

So that if nothing ever changed for you, could you accept that person? And not tolerate him because there’s a difference between accepting a man and tolerating him.

What I’ve come to know is that a lot of the women that I speak to in the past, they have tolerated men, and so of course, it’s not going to really work in your favor. So this is where you get to be in choice.

Now, when it comes to having a your man as your best friend… well, the problem that I see with that is:

Number one, it creates the sense of entitlement, and this is where women can turn to really emasculate and sort of feminize men, because there’s so much that we want to talk about.

You know, we women are more detail-oriented creatures, and we like to talk, we want to know the details, we like to just give everything and talk about everything. You want somebody to take down your hair, and comb your hair, and do your toes, and all this stuff, and… well, I don’t know about taking down the hair, but maybe having your man polish your toes could be very, very romantic for you.

In my own experience, the men with whom I’ve been the best of friends with, there was really less of a romantic, lover feeling, and more of a brother feeling. And that doesn’t work for me.

So if that’s something that will work for you, know who you are and know where you are, and be fine with that. But if that’s not going to work for you because you want someone who is both compatible and exciting, who is your most perfect match, then the solution for you is to cultivate a sisterhood.

Because if your man is your best friend, a part of that a part of that is that, number one, if you want to tell him everything that’s going on with you in your day, and all this other stuff, he can be directly impacted by what you’re saying, and so some of that allure that you have can sort of diminish, because the mystique is lost.

Remember that warmth is what will attract people to you; that mystique and that mysteriousness is what will keep them engaged. And so, if you are just … If they know everything about you, and not to say you want to hold any secrets, but if everything that comes across your mind comes across your lips, and all of this stuff, it can really diminish that aspect of your femininity, and that aspect of attraction.

The beauty is that men like to get to know you. You have a gift offering that men can unwrap and unravel with care, with tenderness, with love, and so you present yourself as a gift. Think about that.

The solution is that you want to cultivate a sisterhood. You want to get you some really good confidants, women who can support you, women who can stand in agreement with you, women who are not impacted by what you’re saying, especially if you’re talking about your relationship, or how it’s going in the dating world.

I used to talk about my past relationships with the man in my life, and not that he necessarily saw me as a ho, but he was probably like, “Monique, what are you talking about? You need to get yourself together, because you’re all over the place.”

I don’t recommend that your man- that you have this idea- that he’s going to be your best friend. Sure, it can grow into that over time, but my understanding of best friends is that you share everything, you do everything, AND you have to have your life. One of my mentors says that you definitely want to “keep your life even though he’s in it.”

This is really important for you, so that you can learn how to love without losing yourself.

To your enhancement,


P.S. The countdown for Feminine Allure Academy is on. It’s my12 month signature system that helps single women of faith own their influence, attract the right man, and create a purposeful relationship.  You can learn more RIGHT HERE.