feel confident in your ability to attract quality men

Feel Confident In Your Ability to Attract Quality Men

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I want to share a conversation that I had with a woman last week.  She is approaching 50, and she had been in a relationship for over 20 years, and that was some time ago, and she had never been claimed.

So today I want to talk to you about feeling really good, feeling confident, feeling successful in your ability to create what it is that you want so that you can attract quality men… feeling good about your self-worth and your esteem.

And here’s why.

It’s because there had come a point in a conversation where I just asked her. I said, “Well, let me ask you this. If we were having a conversation one year from today and nothing changed for you, how would you feel about that?” And she said, “I’d be a little disappointed.” And I thought, “What?!”

So I said, “You know what? Can I give you some tough love right now?

Side note: She was on a Breakthrough Call. These calls are complimentary, and you walk away with a breakthrough. No matter if you invest in yourself through me or not. No matter if you become a client or not, or a member of the Feminine Allure Academy, you’re gonna walk away with something. And that’s gonna be your internal breakthrough. This is a part of my Christ-mandate and why I do the work that I do.

But anyway …

We were talking for maybe about 20- 30 minutes, and I was like, “Listen. I don’t believe that we’ve been talking on the phone for 30 minutes for you to come to that conclusion, that you’d just be, “a little bit disappointed.”

The truth is, we don’t have what we want because we really don’t want it enough. And sometimes we don’t want it enough because we feel so undeserving.

Here’s an example of what that looks like in my own life.

Last week, I shared with you when we were in Paris and at the Louis Vuitton store, and I felt some kind of way, I felt like I didn’t belong while my husband was in there with an extra boost of confidence.  

I even shared this this with my group coaching clients too.

I’m from Detroit, and so there’s this big mall called The Somerset Collection. It’s really extravagant and I don’t know what it’s like anymore, but the mall had these two sides. One side had the Fendi, the Gucci, the Prada, the St. John’s, all the more luxury, elite, higher priced stores. The other side had the typical mall stores. So I would always stay on the typical mall side. I remember my mom wanted to go to the other side and I was like, “Mom, that’s the Gucci side. We don’t need to go there. We can’t afford it anyways.”

She responded, “Don’t you ever tell yourself that you’re not gonna go to a place because you can’t afford it or feel like you don’t deserve it.”

 At that time I’m thinking, “I’m just trying to save money.” My mom likes to spend.

But, thinking about that now, that was the story of my feeling unworthy and feeling undeserving. It’s like, “Well, I can’t afford it anyway so why would I even go? Why would I even open myself up to this sense of expansion?”

Here’s what I want you to know.

Don’t take yourself out of the game for whatever it is. Whether it’s money,  a relationship, or your desire to be claimed… to want to be with someone who tells you that your hair is beautiful, or “you’ve got nice lipstick”, or “I love those earrings that you’re wearing”, or bring you water in the middle of the night, someone that you can share memories with…

Honor your desire to have that, okay? And don’t take yourself out the game because you deserve so much more.

You deserve to put some grounding under you for a really strong foundation to create more expansion, abundance, and possibility in your life right now.

This time of transition from 2017 into 2018 is really a time when you’re pregnant with possibility.

Imagine going from feeling unworthy and undeserving to feeling happy and fulfilled.

That feeling comes with having a strong foundation under you. It comes with from the support of like-minded women who see you, honor you, and who can stand really for your greatness.

That’s what I do. That’s a part of my mission and my Christ mandate… to  women attract and communicate with the right man, and use those same skills to improve other areas of her life.

Because having a purposeful relationship in this world matters. It means something. And if you’re a woman of faith, what better way to serve God and build up his kingdom than by learning how to love, by establishing your family, by building up the harvest. What better way to serve God? What better way?

Here’s your assignment. (Leave your comment below)

Ask yourself: Where are you taking yourself out of the game before you even start?

For me it was, “well I’m not even gonna go to the other side of the Somerset Collection because I can’t afford it.” Now, my perspective has shifted to “You know what? They have it, that means it’s possible for me too.” And, I collect it as evidence.” Okay?

So what would it take? What would it take for you to open up your heart to possibility? What would it take for you to begin to invest in yourself and to just really open your heart to the desires and what you want?

This is for you.

To your enhancement, 


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